Have you been stuck in a rut recently? I'm in one now in a certain area of my life. I have a goal that I've been wanting to accomplish for over a year now, and it's just not happening. Not because I can't, but because I'm not actively doing much to pursue it. I have been frustrated, and today it dawned on me. I took advice from someone in which direction I should go, and I've realized that direction isn't serving me well. I went with it because I respect this person...and maybe, just maybe, I thought I needed their validation.
There's nothing wrong with asking for advice from those who have knowledge in an area you are interested in pursuing. It's actually one of the smartest things you can do. The downside of this is when you take someone's own opinions and advice and not think for yourself. Instead you dive head first into a project or study, only to find that you are drowning because you didn't find the best path for you!
I realize that I should have used the advice, done my research, and then made the best possible choice FOR ME! I have wasted almost a year. This is not an excuse for not "trying harder". I could continue with the plan I have and see what happens. I haven't decided that yet. But, what I have learned is to trust my instincts and not rely on my emotions of being a people pleaser. In the end, no one is pleased. Especially myself. The person that gave me the advice has probably not given me a second thought since then. Maybe Plan B will surface sometime soon.
Thanks for listening. I'd love to hear about your experience with this subject!
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